Stonewall launches new 'coming out' guidance for young people This guide is designed to provide answers to some of the most common questions that young people might have if they are thinking about coming out or think they might be lesbian, gay or bisexual Download guide 9 Oct 14
So you think your child is gay? - Stonewall's new guide answers parents' common questions. Written in plain English, it dispels the common myths about what being gay means for young people stonewall.org.uk 8 Feb 13
London Lesbian and Gay Switchboard adds email and instant messaging for the first time - Tel 0300 330 0630 llgs.org.uk 16 Mar 12
can use the GAYtoZ Directory to find advice,
support, and many other services which will help you come out. If you'd
talk to someone, try
London Lesbian & Gay Switchboard on 0300 330 0630.
You're sure to find a friendly
and supportive person to speak to.
they are extremely busy and it may be difficult to get through. Search
through the GAY to Z Directory to find other
local 'Switchboards' and 'Friend' groups around
the country. There are 100s of links and suggestions.
You can also search by TOWN / REGION using the 'Who, What, Where' search at the top of the page.
of these groups also run social clubs especially for young people
coming out. You can meet other people of the same age group who are
also coming out. It's great to share the experience and most of us
keep many of the friends we make when we first venture into the gay
Buy a copy of GT (Gay Times), DIVA (for women), or ATTITUDE magazines which are available in newsagents around the UK. In London TIME OUT and the Evening Standard both have listings of gay events and activities.
you're in London, head for Old Compton Street in Soho where you'll find many gay pubs, shops and cafes, and where you can pick up free copies of the weekly gay newspapers BOYZ,
and QX Magazine.
Manchester head for the shops and pubs in Canal Street behind the bus station. BENT and CITY LIFE magazines have gay listings.
In Birmingham head for the bars and shops inHurst Street in the City Centre. Pick up ZONE magazine
look out for ScotsGay magazine.
Around the world
You can use the GAY to Z to search for your country. There is international legal information at ILGA.
Online there are many supportive places to find, including the 'It gets better' project which features videos of hundreds of ordinary lesbian and gay people from all walks of life. If you're looking for young, or old, people in the same situation as yourself, you'll hear their stories of how they came out.
Where do you fit in?
Whether you are unsure of your sexuality, or your gender, or if you just want to find other people in the same boat as you, you can use the GAY to Z Directory to find someone to talk to:
"For many gay men, the last vestige of internalized homophobia is this hatred of how they sound"
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Sky Sports News presenter comes out
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Lord Browne - Former BP chief said that he hadn't felt comfortable with speaking about being gay for years, but that he felt better about being open now thetimes.co.uk subscription 21 Apr 13
Sheffield schools - praised for tackling gay abuse thestar.co.uk 24 Mar 13
Blue's Duncan James - 'I was so frightened about my bisexuality being exposed I had to leave the country' mirror.co.uk 23 Mar 13
Prince Harry - I'll consider going gay if it doesn't work out with Cressida metro.co.uk 17 Mar 13
Dad's letter to son - Dad overhears nervous gay teenage son talking about his coming out plan ... Writes his son best note ever facebook.com/fckh8com 17 Mar 13
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Paul J Burgess tells the story of his father's incredible transition from a man unable to accept his gay son, to a man fully accepting and embracing of not only his sexuality, but the powerful work of the Pink Triangle Theatre tackling homophobia youtu.be | pinktriangletheatre.co.uk 8 Feb 13
Bullying study suggests it subsides as gay, lesbian, bisexual teens get older cbsnews.com 5 Feb 13
Jadin Bell - who hanged himself two weeks ago after complaining of bullying, died early Sunday afternoon in an Oregon children's hospital oregonlive.com 4 Feb 13
'Good morning parents,
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New Jersey teen announces he's gay in front of high school assembly abcnews.go.com 25 Jan 13
43% of 'coming out' calls at the London Lesbian and Gay Switchboard are from people aged 35-late 60s metro.co.uk | llgs.org.uk 19 Jan 13
Homophobia in Hollywood: Why gay movie stars still can't come out of the closet independent.co.uk 19 Jan 13
Boy Scout Camp Leader comes out and condemns organization's policies thinkprogress.org 19 Jan 13
Victor Garber - Argo star lives in New York with his companion of 13 years, Rainer Andreesen - I don't really talk about it but everybody knows greginhollywood.com 15 Jan 13
Jodie Foster 'comes out' - in opaque Golden Globes speech - transcript vulture.com
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Matt Damon on gay rumors: I never denied them because I was offended aceshowbiz.com 15 Dec 12
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Get involved in Anti-Bullying Week at school - 19-23 Nov stonewall.org.uk 19 Nov 12
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Google and Stonewall bring 'It gets better' phenomenon to UK TV. New Google Chrome TV ad to raise awareness in the UK of the urgent need to tackle homophobic bullying and to inspire young people YouTube | stonewall.org.uk4 Jun 11